making new out of old

            Recycling is a good thing, even when it comes to information.  We all lead such busy lives that I bet you haven't had a chance to go back in the blog archive and browse through some of the older posts.  Today, therefore, I have put together a glimpse into the treasure trove of fun old blog posts, to discover for the first time or discover anew, and across all categories so it's more fun. 

             Do you remember seeing this post on communication that face-to-face is best?  A really important food concept is not wasting any of it.  Here a post titled nose to tail on eating all parts of an animal (if you choose to eat meat), not just steaks and chops (and where does the rest go anyway?).  No one likes to lose.  Here a post on creating win-win situations

            Journeying into heartland is good for you, better than trying to be brainy all the time.  Here a post on a new healing /medical paradigm, so much more proactive!  I think it's important to give within your means - take a look.   New ways of thinking in a more cooperative way let us be inspired by nature, read this post on working with nature, not against it.  You already probably know that the best things in life are free.  Here a post on living in the Now, and one on how we see the world.  And a few more - one on making healthy snacks, on ditching your microwave, and on making a three-course meal in 25 minutes.  Enjoy!

how to move forward

             We are so used to win-lose scenarios that we have a hard time embracing that everyone can potentially win.  Regardless of which side of the fence you sat on during the election, let me list the many commonalities we all share.  We all prefer predictability to uncertainty; we all are entitled to a steady and assured source of income so we can live a life of dignity and without financial worries; we need to know that we're safe and that our justice system works for all, not just for some; we all prefer a clean and healthy environment so we can drink the water, breathe the air, and eat the foods grown in its soil without concern for our health; we are all entitled to affordable or free health care.  Beyond those basic physical needs we should have free or affordable education (it's to everybody's benefit), we should all be able to express our opinions freely and without repercussions, practice our religious or sexual preference without worry, and be treated equally regardless of the color of our skin, eyes or hair.  That's a lot we can agree on.

             With those commonalities in mind we need to move forward with win-win scenarios and agency.  "We, the people" is you and I, not some abstract entity.  The government may be a vehicle for democracy, but we, you and I, are the checks and balances for the government.  You and I must take charge, be responsible for upholding the principles of our democracy, formulate the future we wish for ourselves, our community, and our country.   As Kennedy said " Ask not....", well you know what he said.  Most importantly the solutions must work for all.  The crucial realization is that this requires compromise.  If you cannot agree with your spouse on what to do this Friday evening you're just going to sit home and do nothing.  If your spouse wants to go to the movies and you want to eat out, and you can't agree, well, you can either have a fight, or one can try to win the other over, which leaves the other partner disgruntled.  If you can compromise and agree to meet in the middle, perhaps go to the movies this Friday, and eat out next Friday, you can both have a good time and you both win.  

            Taking charge and being involved, as well as compromising for the greater good of all will be very important from here on in.  Please reread an older post on win-win scenarios.

voting for, not against

            On the day before this historic election I'd like to make the case for the difference between voting for, as opposed to voting against, or not voting at all. 

            When you vote against, as in "I don't like green tomatoes," you have not yet defined what you actually like.  You might like red tomatoes, you might not like tomatoes at all, you might like green beans best, but deciding not to buy green tomatoes still does not put dinner on the table.. 

            When you go to the store and buy battery cage chicken eggs you vote for that type of agriculture and for cheap eggs with your money because you are putting money towards that end.  When you vote for anything you clearly state "This is what I want." 

            When you abstain from voting you avoid making a decision.  Say you need a dress for an event and find several that you like and that are suitable, but can't make up your mind and leave the store empty handed.  On the day of the event you still need to wear something, so you end up wearing something you had in your closet but that you don't really feel good about.

            It is true that in life you can't always get what you want.  In the wintertime there are no strawberries.  Instead of being mad that you can't find good strawberries, find the best pomegranates or tangerines you can and leave it at that.

            It's better to vote for something with full conviction of voting for, than not voting or voting against.  When you don't vote you leave the decision to others.

letting go

             Maybe fall is a good time to let things go, the way trees let go of their leaves before going into hibernation, a period of rest and internal renewal (that pregant pause full of potential), before starting fresh again in the spring.   I saw this beautiful quote by an unknown author the other day:  "Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go."

            I love the fall for many reasons - the change of seasons and that getting-back-to-cozy feeling (just put on the flannel sheets), the fantastic colors, those delicious fall spice combinations, and the wonderful festivities, but also the blusteriness of the weather, which feels like a giant sweep-up and cleansing.  The song Letting Go, featured in the animated movie Frozen, became a huge hit a few years ago.  Letting go of fears is liberating and makes you feel lighter.  Fears cause us to put up barriers, put on figurative masks, hide our true feelings, and conceal who we really are.  They also cause us to hold on to things that are not useful any longer, like grudges, ill will, and all that pettiness that weighs us down.

            Consider fall's metaphor of the beauty of lettings things go, letting it drain out of you, giving it up if it no longer serves or weights you down with emotional ballast - no need to hold on.  Here also a previous post on forgiveness.

going high

              I am so tired of this election campaign, and being surrounded by all the vitriol that's being spewed by both parties, the media, and perpetuated on social media.  Why not express what you want, instead of what you don't want?  Stick your political sign on the lawn if you wish, but don't remove your neighbor's.  In conversation with others talk about what you are looking for: maybe fair wages, job security, fair and accessible health insurance, whatever the case may be.   But all that screaming, yelling and anger just lacks civility. 

            We are social beings meant to live in groups.  Courtesy, manners, etiquette and niceties were invented to make living together more pleasant and promote positive energy.  But it requires putting the harmony of togetherness ahead of the short-term satisfaction of self-centered vengeful anger for the greater benefit of all.  Anger, profanities and cursing poison the ambiance and propagate negative energy.

            We need more positive energy, and we can't change others, we can only change our own attitude.  A little light chases away a lot of darkness.  You always have a choice between dark and light.